I once heard somebody ask, “Would you be more angry if you found out your child was smoking, or they had cheated in school?” Our attitudes and reactions often belie our stated priorities.
In the past several years, I’ve known of a number of homeschooled kids whose behavior changed as they grew up or when they started going to public school. I don’t know all the details, but I would bet some of the reasons are described in this article.
These are pitfalls common to all parents who have high standards for their kids. Perfectionism is endemic to our culture, and one of the terrible side effects is that even when we succeed in controlling all the details, we lose sight of what’s important.